When it comes to preparing bestman speeches the pressure can be immense. Everyone expects the best man speech to be the most entertaining part of the day.
The pressure on guys to write funny bestman speeches can create very real stress and concern and ruin the entire experience of the wedding. Instead of savouring the day and joining in the joy of your best friend's union you can end up fretting and just biding your time until you can stand up and shakily deliver your mediocre script that took you 2 months to write.
I know that's how I would have felt had I not used additional wedding speeches resources to write my bestman speech!
Deciding What to Say
Everyone knows that bestman wedding speeches are supposed to be funny, entertaining and inspirational. It is a lot of pressure to meet those three criteria but when you do you will always be remembered when anyone mentions that wedding.
I actually got the idea of using professional resources to help me write my speech from my friend Dave who used a similar resource when he was best man and a mutual friend's wedding.
There are of course some examples of speeches available online and you can get free bestman speeches if you look hard enough. However, you must ensure you change these sufficiently so that it isn't the same as a speech someone else has used. There is nothing worse than getting caught using "canned material".
This is the reason I used a professional resource to write my best man wedding speech. I was shown how to take parts of the 20 pre-written scripts and mix them some of the 100 toasts to create a totally unique best man speech!
It is amazing how you can take a story and weave people you know into it without them questioning whether it happened or not because it sounds like you are being funny and entertaining and also because you can use real life situations to make the story totally believable - no one even questions whether or not it is true!
In fact my speech was so unique that my friend Dave had no idea I used pre-written material even though I had used the same company he did!
My Bestman Speech
When my best friend Matt asked me to be best man at his wedding I was thrilled and honoured - at least in the beginning.
I remembered all those weddings I had attended and how I had laughed as my friends got married one by one. Some of those weddings will be remembered for years and years to come especially because of the speeches.
When my friend Jeff got married his buddy Eric (who I'd never et before) gave such a great funny bestman speech I though the wedding reception guests were going to bring the house down. After the dinner he was being treated like a rock star (especially by the brides maids but that's another story).
This may seem strange but I am one of those guys who really likes weddings. So I was super excited to be going to my best friend's!
Unfortunately though very soon my excitement turned to dread and fear as I realised I would have to be entertaining, captivating and worst of all - funny!
I was so frightened at the prospect of writing the most important speech of the wedding that, to be truthful, I left it for weeks and weeks before I even considered starting on it.
I don't advise you to take the same strategy!
Plan ahead. The more time you have the better you will make your speech and the more people will enjoy it.
Although I was very nervous at first once I started to research bestman speeches I became even more nervous. I thought it would be just a matter of looking up some websites and joining different ideas together - boy was I wrong.
Luckily I did find some great resources that helped me write a bestman speech that some of my friends still talk about today and one that Matt and Joanne regularly fast-forward to on their wedding dvd when showing friends.
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